Two Paths
I’ve come to learn there are two paths we can take in life. The first path is the one driven by fear and our ego. Meaning, we take a job we think we “should,” we are motivated out of fear and lack. Then we set out to hustle and achieve with force looking to gain money, status, reputation etc.
I’ve come to learn there are two paths we can take in life. The first path is the one driven by fear and our ego. Meaning, we take a job we think we “should,” we are motivated out of fear and lack. Then we set out to hustle and achieve with force looking to gain money, status, reputation etc.
The energy behind this path is negative and in turn creates a lot of negativity and emptiness in our lives despite our efforts.
The second path is the way of the soul. It’s driven by our hearts true desires and our passion. We follow our passion, we do what we love and we naturally magnetize our desires from a place of joy and love.
The energy behind this path is ease and flow and in turn creates more even more joy and fulfillment than we even could have imagined.
Clearly the second path sounds much more enjoyable but unfortunately most of us are taking that first path. Why? Because we fear our passions wouldn’t afford the lifestyle we want, we don’t trust the universe and so we try to control our lives, we care too much about going against the norm or we have beliefs that taught us that was the ONLY path.
Whatever it is, it’s time to start understanding these two paths. And if you want to live a life of joy and ease, clearly the second path is the best option.
This is the journey that I’ve been on. Discovering what are my heart’s true desires, what is truly my passion and how can I fearlessly travel this second path no matter how crazy it looks to outsiders with total faith that it’s going to get me exactly where I want to go. It’s not easy after spending most of my life on the first path, but it certainly has been more fun :)
XO
Adrienne
Waiting
Are you waiting for outside conditions to change in order for you to feel happy, fulfilled, loved, wealthy etc?
Are you waiting for outside conditions to change in order for you to feel happy, fulfilled, loved, wealthy etc?
Like you want your partner to behave a certain way so you feel loved. Or you want your bank account to have a certain amount to feel wealthy. Or you want your boss to praise you more to feel appreciated.
As long you are waiting for outside conditions to change in order to feel a certain way, you will be waiting forever.
Why?
A couple of reasons. First off, “waiting” is actually a state of consciousness. And from all I’ve learned and continue to study, it’s our state of consciousness that creates our reality. So a state of waiting in your mind is sure to create a perpetual state of waiting in your reality.
Secondly, when we base our feelings off our outside circumstances, we give all of our power away. What you may not realize is everything has to be created and cultivated from within first in order to have LASTING change in any area.
If you’re always looking for an outside circumstance to make you feel a certain way, you are constantly at the whim of the outside world. And how often is the outside exactly what you’re looking for? Almost never!! Which means you will feel frustrated more of the time with only fleeting feelings of what you want to attain.
You must learn to cultivate all feelings within first so that becomes your state of consciousness and can manifest in the world around you. Not sure how to do that? That’s what I’m here for 😀 Reply with ME to get the link to book a no-cost call with me to learn how.
XO
Adrienne
Nice vs Kind
I’ve talked about this before but it’s been on my mind a lot recently. There’s a big difference between being nice and being kind.
I’ve talked about this before but it’s been on my mind a lot recently. There’s a big difference between being nice and being kind.
Nice is saying something to appease the other person. It’s almost being manipulative because you “don’t want to make the other person upset.” So instead, you lie to be “nice.”
How backwards is that?!?!?
Being kind is telling someone the truth no matter what. I found in my life I was being nice so much of the time, I didn’t even know what my truth was. It was second nature to just be nice, which is extremely not nice to myself.
Remember it’s not your responsibility to manage someone else’s feelings. You manage yourself - your own emotions and feelings and let other people manage theirs.
Find your truth and don’t be afraid to speak it.
XO
Adrienne
Agendas
My mind has all kinds of agendas. What it wants to do, what it thinks I “should” do, how it thinks things should go.
My mind has all kinds of agendas. What it wants to do, what it thinks I “should” do, how it thinks things should go.
And when things don’t pan out the way our mind thought, there’s often negativity around it.
This weekend I had plans to go to Aspen for the Jazz festival which I’ve wanted to do since I’ve lived in Colorado. I bought the tickets months ago and was tagging along with a friend who had made all the plans.
For some reason, the week or so leading up to it I was getting a nagging feeling abut it. I would have anxiety start to pop up when I thought about the weekend.
But my mind was throwing a fit - it had its own agenda and own plans. “Adrienne don’t be crazy, it’s going to be so fun.” “You have no other plans, don’t you want to have fun this weekend?” “Don’t be lame.” And on and on it went trying to convince me why I needed to go.
I’ve been in this situation a lot in my life - where I have a gut feeling about something and my mind justifies why I should still go through with it.
I decided to listen to my intuition and cancel my plans. It wasn’t easy and I had serious FOMO all weekend. But I also had some beautiful experiences and profound insights and I know I made the right decision - even if I can’t fully understand why.
I encourage you to slow down, get out of your head and start listening to your intuition. Quit forcing your mind’s agenda on everything and learn to flow with where life is taking you. Things tend to work out much better when you do.
XO
Adrienne
Fear
I love the acronym - False Evidence Appearing Real. There is a lot of fear out there these days. Everywhere you look - the news, social media, movies etc.
I love the acronym - False Evidence Appearing Real. There is a lot of fear out there these days. Everywhere you look - the news, social media, movies etc.
It’s enough to keep you in a perpetual state of fear.
I believe you’re either doing things out of fear or doing things out of love. There’s no in between. And we get to choose which we want to engage with.
The more we act out of love instead of fear, the happier and more free we are.
Be careful what you watch and what you’re focusing on. The more you focus on the fear, the more will come into your experience.
Ask yourself with each decision - am I doing this out of love or out of fear?
You might be surprised to see how much fear is controlling you.
XO
Adrienne
Coming Out
I’ve always been a spiritual person. Even while working in finance and being very logical and analytical, something about spirituality always intrigued me.
I’ve always been a spiritual person. Even while working in finance and being very logical and analytical, something about spirituality always intrigued me.
In the last 2.5 years since leaving the industry, I’ve explored more and more in the spiritual world - the likes of religious texts, quantum physics, manifestation, mediumship and channeling.
I’ve even opened up my own intuitive/spiritual gifts of mediumship (connecting with loved ones across the veil) and channeling (bringing through wisdom from higher levels of consciousness.)
While this has become such a big part of my life, I’ve really hid this from my audiences since I know the majority of people are in the finance world and I’ve feared coming across as “crazy” or too “woo.”
But I think it’s time to come out with it and share this side of me because after all, it is a big part of who I am and what I believe it.
I understand that not everyone shares the same beliefs as me and that is completely fine.
What I ask is you keep an open mind about these things, because what I’ve learned is that we know very little about the nature reality. Our brain filters out 99.9% of information, so just because we can’t physically see something, doesn’t mean it isn’t real.
So this is me, Adrienne Grace - coach, consultant, medium, channel, modern mystic and whatever other labels someone wants to give me.
If you’re interested in learning more or having a conversation about any of this (or even want to debate it!), please reach out to me. And if you’re interested in booking a session, you can do so here.
XO
Adrienne
Courage
Sometimes I forget how drastically my life has changed over the past couple of years. I get reminded when I meet someone new or speak with an old friend from the industry.
Sometimes I forget how drastically my life has changed over the past couple of years. I get reminded when I meet someone new or speak with an old friend from the industry.
When I share about how I quit my high-paying career to start my own business, quit drinking and bought my dream mountain home, people's response is usually: "Wow you have a lot of courage."
I see it differently. I'm not discounting the fact that it took an immense amount of courage to do all of those things, but for me, it's because I come from a place of absolute faith and complete knowing.
What do I mean by that? I have developed a level of faith that I KNOW beyond the shadow of a doubt that everything is going to work out for me.
I KNOW that if I hold onto the vision I'm creating, that it must come to fruition in my life.
I KNOW that if I follow my intuition that I am always divinely supported.
I KNOW that even if things don't work out exactly as I thought they would, or if there are major challenges, everything is always happening FOR me and that I'm just being redirected to something even better.
When you have this level of trust, making big, bold moves is actually easy!
It doesn't mean I don't have that olddoubt and fear still come up sometimes, I most definitely do. But I don't stay there and I certainly don't let it stop me.
Life is a trip. Take a leap and see how you're caught.
XO
Adrienne
Hidden Parts
I've been doing a deep dive into myself for four years. Every time I go inside to look deeply at myself, I get scared. I think there's going to be something dark and ugly staring back at me that I won't want to face.
I've been doing a deep dive into myself for four years. Every time I go inside to look deeply at myself, I get scared. I think there's going to be something dark and ugly staring back at me that I won't want to face.
This past weekend, as I was doing some deep inner work I came to a realization. Nothing inside of me is dark and scary. All of the things that I was fearful of or ashamed about, are just things that make me human. We all have this "darkness" inside of us, it's just part of the journey!
In fact, it is those hidden parts of me that I thought were so terrible that actually are the most beautiful things about me. They're what make me, me. And it's when we integrate these hidden parts of ourselves and allow them to be seen that we come into our wholeness and become free!
What are you hiding? I promise, there's nothing inside of you that every human doesn't also experience. And those parts of you are beautiful too ✨
XO
Adrienne
The Soul
The other morning, I woke up to a thought in my head that said “The soul is who you are before the mind chimes in.”
The other morning, I woke up to a thought in my head that said “The soul is who you are before the mind chimes in.”
After that, I proceeded to slip into a state of bliss, of pure awareness looking out through “my” eyes. I was in complete awe. The state of bliss didn’t last all that long before the mind came in “You need to start getting ready for the day.” I begrudgingly listened and got out of bed.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot over the past week. Do you ever have an impulse to do something - compliment a stranger in the grocery store, get up and dance to your favorite song in a restaurant, run through the rain in your nice clothes, quit your job, buy that dream house.
Then the mind comes in: “No, they’ll think you’re weird.” “I don’t want people to think I’m crazy.” “Ehh I don’t want to mess up my clothes.” “That would be irresponsible.”
That impulse, that is your soul, the truth of who you are. All the fearful thoughts that come after is the mind.
I want to live honoring my soul, not listening to the mind. This will take some practice for me since I have learned to live by mind my whole life. But the more I don’t listen to it, the more fun I have, the more free I feel, the more things unexpectedly work out and the more I feel like I am honoring what I really want.
It hasn’t been an easy journey and certainly not a logical one, but as I do this the more trust I have in myself and life.
What is your soul telling you to do that your mind is talking you out of? Try following your soul and see how things start to work out.
XO
Adrienne
Choose Joy
I no longer buy into the paradigm that we have to work hard, struggle and do something we don’t enjoy everyday just to save money to retire when we’re older and then start to really live. Who sold us this idea?!
I no longer buy into the paradigm that we have to work hard, struggle and do something we don’t enjoy everyday just to save money to retire when we’re older and then start to really live. Who sold us this idea?!
Our life is precious and the future is not guaranteed. Why should we spend it any other way than what brings us joy?!
Of course we all want money and the freedom that comes along with it. But most of the time if you were to ask people what brings them joy, it’s things like spending time with family, taking the dog for a walk, being in nature, seeing a beautiful sunset, reading a good book, enjoying a delicious meal.
All of these things are easily at our disposal and cost very little. Why do we deny ourselves from these simple pleasures?! Or if we are indulging in them, very seldomly are we 100% present - most of the time the stressors of work and life are still on our minds.
I’m now consciously choosing joy everyday. I want to experience these simple pleasures and not take them for granted.
I’m no longer waiting for a tomorrow that may or may not come. I am investing in my happiness now. Happiness and joy is a choice we can make everyday.
Who’s with me?!
XO
Adrienne
Gifts
It’s my opinion that every challenge in life is happening FOR us to help us evolve and expand.
It’s my opinion that every challenge in life is happening FOR us to help us evolve and expand.
I also believe that within every challenge is a gift. And the bigger the challenge, the bigger the gift.
What do you focus on when faced with challenges? Because what you focus on and the meaning you give it is what is creating your reality.
What if you can train yourself to always look for the gift inside of a challenge? You would meet life’s problems very differently. Maybe you would even get excited about a challenging situation because you KNEW it had a gift in it somewhere for you.
Remember this when you’re faced with things you would prefer not to be because they seem difficult. Can you look for the gift in it?
XO
Adrienne
Listen
Have you ever noticed how the words LISTEN and SILENT are spelled with the same letters?! I believe in order to listen to the quiet whispers of your soul, you must stop all the noise both internally and externally.
Have you ever noticed how the words LISTEN and SILENT are spelled with the same letters?! I believe in order to listen to the quiet whispers of your soul, you must stop all the noise both internally and externally.
I believe that all the answers we seek are inside of us. And we have the ability to tap into infinite intelligence at any time.
The world is a noisy place and there’s tons of information flying at us, getting us to react and telling us who we should be. On top of that, we have that critic in our head that is often barking at us “You should do this, you need to do that, why haven't you done this” etc.
It isn’t until we can get still and quiet the mind where our own personal truth can bubble up to be heard. It’s not always what we want to hear and can often be scary to listen to, but I’ve found the more I listen to that subtle voice, the more easily my life flows.
The more we ignore that little voice, the more challenging our life gets.
For example - when I was engaged, I kept hearing that subtle little voice alerting me it wasn’t right. But I chose to ignore it, stuff it down and go full steam ahead with wedding plans. Then a year after the wedding, the whole marriage blew up in a very messy way that I still carry a lot of guilt around.
This remains a challenge for me - trying to find my own personal truth amongst all the noise and then having the courage to follow it.
What is your soul trying to say to you? Get silent to listen.
XO
Adrienne
Our Infinite Playground
We live on a truly incredible blue planet. There is more to do on Earth than we can ever fathom doing in a lifetime. Destinations, activities, entertainment - and it’s all here for us!
We live on a truly incredible blue planet. There is more to do on Earth than we can ever fathom doing in a lifetime. Destinations, activities, entertainment - and it’s all here for us!
Earth is like an infinite playground for us to explore, play and have fun on. It’s fun (and overwhelming) to think about everything this world has to offer and I want to make sure I take full advantage.
I had stopped playing and exploring for a while when I used to take myself and life so seriously. Now I’m having fun again following what feels fun, trying lots of new things and exploring all this world has to offer.
Playing and exploring doesn’t have to stop just because we become adults. Actually it’s a great way to keep us young and youthful.
Don’t lose that sense of wonder. Keep exploring, keep playing - that’s why we have an infinite playground all to ourselves.
XO
Adrienne
Best Day Ever
What if today is the best day of your life?! It is your best day ever because it’s the only one you are guaranteed to have. It’s the only one that exists right here right now. Tomorrow is not certain. Yesterday is just a memory. Today is all you have.
What if today is the best day of your life?! It is your best day ever because it’s the only one you are guaranteed to have. It’s the only one that exists right here right now. Tomorrow is not certain. Yesterday is just a memory. Today is all you have.
What will happen on this beautiful, magical day?! ANYTHING! Anything is possible. It’s filled with possibilities and potentials.
Maybe you run into an old friend you haven’t seen in a while, maybe you land an exciting business opportunity, maybe you have an unexpected windfall of money, perhaps you get to spend it doing something you love with people you love. Or maybe nothing extraordinary happens but you're filled with gratitude to witness another rotation of this beautiful planet.
It’s yours to create anything you want! You have the choice.
We often lose sight of the fact that all we ever have is this day. We project so much into the future, we miss the only moment we have.
Get present today and remember today is the best day ever! You have the power to make it so.
XO
Adrienne
Authenticity
I spent the weekend with a community in Denver that were some of the most loving, accepting people I've ever met who are all dedicated to their own personal growth. I went in only knowing one woman and left with a whole slew of new, genuine friendships.
I spent the weekend with a community in Denver that were some of the most loving, accepting people I've ever met who are all dedicated to their own personal growth. I went in only knowing one woman and left with a whole slew of new, genuine friendships.
The most amazing part of the experience was how REAL I could be with anyone I spoke with. I could open up about anything - parts of my past I'm not proud of, shameful secrets I don't often share, my deepest thoughts and fears that are difficult to speak.
Anything I said, no matter who it was to, was met with nothing but compassion and understanding. I never felt judged and allowed people to see ALL parts of me that I typically hide especially when just meeting someone new.
I didn't wear an ounce of makeup all weekend, didn't do my hair and still felt so loved and accepted by everyone for who I was.
These are the types of people and experiences I've been craving in life. Deep authenticity where I can be my most open and free self and seen for who I am, not what I look like.
What you realize is that everyone has similar stories, experiences, thoughts etc. and you're not the only one struggling with the things that can feel so isolating.
This is the type of community I strive to create among my clients which is why I always am real and authentic about my experiences. And it's been so fun to watch some of the connections that have formed between them!
If this is something you are looking for, I am here for you - to just be a nonjudgmental friend to listen to anything you want to share. Authenticity = Freedom.
In light of this, here's a pic of me - wet hair, no makeup, sweats. The most raw and authentic me.
XO
Adrienne
Unlimited Potential
I recently watched the new docu-series on Netflix about Arnold Schwarzenegger. He’s someone who has always been fascinating to me after reading a little bit about him in the updated edition of Napoleon Hill’s classic Think & Grow Rich (which much of what I coach on is based on.)
I recently watched the new docu-series on Netflix about Arnold Schwarzenegger. He’s someone who has always been fascinating to me after reading a little bit about him in the updated edition of Napoleon Hill’s classic Think & Grow Rich (which much of what I coach on is based on.)
He excelled in not just one but THREE completely different talents in his lifetime. Something he said really struck me - “I knew if I could see it in my mind, it was possible for me.”
I believe we are never given a desire that we don’t have the ability to fulfill. Just the fact that you can see it in your mind, is PROOF it is possible for you!
We have SO much potential and the possibilities for our lives are endless. But our old patterning and conditioning often stands in the way between us living our highest potential.
Our mind is creating our reality with our beliefs and what we focus on. When we can develop that incredible belief in ourselves and then learn how to use our mind to focus on what we want, we become LIMITLESS!
Don’t settle for things as they are. Don’t let people tell you things aren’t possible. Forge your own path and live your life with no regrets! I promise you, you are capable of so much more!!
XO
Adrienne
Numbing
I haven’t had a drink in over 18 months now - I can’t believe it’s been that long! Giving up alcohol has been such a positive in my life in many ways.
I haven’t had a drink in over 18 months now - I can’t believe it’s been that long! Giving up alcohol has been such a positive in my life in many ways.
Something that it has really brought my attention to, is the ways in which I escape or try to numb out my feelings. Without having alcohol as a quick, easy fix, I find myself reaching for other things. The big one for me has been food. (Most people who stop drinking lose weight - it’s been the opposite for me!)
But I also see it when I constantly check my phone, binge Netflix or incessantly worry about needless things in my life. They’re all some sort of distraction.
It’s been tough but also very enlightening to consciously watch myself self-destruct. And once I’m aware of it, I can (sometimes) stop it.
What we don’t realize is that when we numb out the uncomfortable or bad feelings, we also numb out the good. Which is why we require more and more of our “drug” of choice to get those happy feelings and they’re fleeting.
Being human is about experiencing the full range of emotions, not just the good ones. We have a tendency to want to cling to the good ones and push away the bad which is just impossible in this ever-changing reality we live in.
What if we could just let all of our emotions come and go as they please without feeling the need to do anything about them?! Just let them pass through us like a wave of current just passing through our bodies. After all, emotions are just energy in motion.
In fact, experts say that if we just allowed an emotion to run its course, its average lifespan is only 90 seconds! The problem is when we resist the emotion, the energy gets trapped and it prolongs the whole experience even keeping remnants of that emotion in our body for good.
Now when I reach for food or find some distraction, I’ll pause and ask myself - what am I feeding right now? What am I feeling and what am I trying to avoid?
Sometimes I get an answer, sometimes I don’t. But more importantly, it serves as a pattern interrupt in my brain so I can start programming in a different habit and allow whatever I’m feeling to pass through.
Being human can be hard but let’s enjoy the full spectrum of what life has to offer instead of avoiding it.
XO
Adrienne
Ego
The late, great Wayne Dyer says ego is Edging Out God.
The late, great Wayne Dyer says ego is Edging Out God.
The ego is a mind created mechanism that allows us to have a separate experience.
There’s nothing wrong with the ego, until we mistake it to be who we are.
The ego looooves to judge, it loves to make something wrong and it loves to want things. It wants to want even more than it wants to have which is why when you get something you wanted, you’re only briefly satisfied.
If you become aware, you’ll notice all the ways the incessant ego is deluding you.
Left to its own devices and believing everything it says, we become very negative and disconnected.
Just like most things I preach about, awareness is always the first step. I’ve been acutely aware of my ego recently. And boy is it crazy! 😂
I’m learning how to just watch it carry on and not let it suck me into its drama. What we put our attention on is what we give our energy to, so if we are giving our ego our attention, we are feeding it energy that keeps it alive.
The more we can divert our attention back to the present moment, the ego gets weaker as we starve it from our precious energy.
The moment you start noticing it chirping up, do something physical like wiggle your toes or do a jumping jack or simply focus on your breathing. That will interrupt the pattern and get your focus back into the present moment.
And remember, you don't have to believe everything it says 😊
Try it!
XO
Adrienne
Don't Take it Personally
I tend to take myself so seriously at times. I stay in control, want to look a certain way and definitely don’t want to stand out too much. I get in my head and I can be overly concerned about what other people think about me.
I tend to take myself so seriously at times. I stay in control, want to look a certain way and definitely don’t want to stand out too much. I get in my head and I can be overly concerned about what other people think about me.
I crave praise and approval - I want people to tell me I’m doing a good job. And if I get criticized or judged (even from a random person on the internet), it can hurt.
The good news: I don’t let it stop me!
Once I became aware of this pattern in me, I just notice it’s happening and don’t let it control me. I look at it for what it is - my ego trying to keep me “safe” and years of conditioning unconsciously being told we need to be liked by others.
In the acclaimed book, The Four Agreements, number two is Don’t Take Anything Personally.
Why? Because nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own mind and what’s going on inside of them, and in reality has nothing to do with you. When you can learn to free yourself from the actions and opinions of others, you are liberated from needless suffering.
Even if you haven’t completely transcended it like me, just being aware of it is a HUGE step.
As human beings, we are social animals and it wasn’t all that long ago that if you weren’t accepted by your tribe, it meant death. So it’s no wonder this pattern can still live within us.
Notice it in yourself and don’t let it stop you from being who you are and doing what you want to do.
“At 20, we worry about what others think of us. At 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.”
XO
Adrienne
Great Expectations
Expectations - the strong belief that something will happen. We often have high expectations for people and experiences in our life. And when they don’t live up to our expectations, we are disappointed.
Expectations - the strong belief that something will happen. We often have high expectations for people and experiences in our life. And when they don’t live up to our expectations, we are disappointed.
Our expectations can be ceaseless if not kept in check. Expectations breed more expectations - have you noticed that? Then there's no appreciation for expectations being met, you just start expecting more and more.
I’ve been there - with people, my business, experiences at restaurants, concerts, you name it. When we continue to have higher and higher expectations, we feel more and more disappointed. We are emanating a feeling of displeasure to the universe and lacking all appreciation.
Since gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership, disappointment and displeasure are the opposite feelings to receive the things you truly want and need.
It’s ok to expect the best. In fact, I encourage it! But it’s when we get so attached that when something or someone doesn’t live up to expectations, we suffer.
There’s a balance in always expecting the best while not getting attached to the outcome. Notice when you're expectations are getting out of check and bring yourself back to gratitude.
XO
Adrienne
