Perfectionism

Perfectionism is when we create a certain persona that we want to show to the world.  We want to manage other people’s perceptions of us.  

I’ve recently become aware about how much I do this!  I am off in someone else’s business wondering what they’re thinking of me and how I want to come off to them.  This has been so unconscious I haven’t even realized I’ve been doing it.

I believe many people actually do this.  When we are young, we somehow are taught that “it’s not safe to be me.”  Then we cover up our true selves and live from our minds strategizing and navigating from a mind-made persona.  Instead of just allowing ourselves to be in our full authenticity.

This is why we end up in jobs we don’t love, numbing with alcohol and food, in relationships that aren’t fully aligned and always searching for that next thing to do to help us escape.  It's painful to not be who we truly are!  

I believe my work is to break this pattern in myself and live fully in my authenticity.  And the more I can do this, the more I can help others do the same.  I know I’ve mentioned this before but I keep uncovering deeper and deeper layers of how this shows up in my life.

Become aware of your inner dialogue and feelings and see if you are managing how other people are perceiving you.  You are a unique, beautiful soul and the best thing you can contribute to this world is to be your magnificent self.

XO

Adrienne