Censorship

Don't worry this is NOT a political post!  I'm talking about censoring ourselves.  

I was recently asked to do something that I didn’t want to do.  Instead of just saying no thank you, I stressed about it and then eventually came up with an excuse as to why I couldn’t do it.

Come to think of it, I often don’t say what I truly mean and feel the need to “soften” it because I’m considering someone’s feelings.

WHY?!  Why did I do this?!

I've realized this all stems from wanting to control - control the other person's thoughts, perceptions, feelings etc.

While we may think we're being nice and considerate, not saying what we truly mean is actually a form of manipulation.  Speaking our minds can actually be a gift to someone - even if it's not what they want to hear.

I'd rather hear the truth - if it stings in the moment it's better than the ambiguity that comes with not knowing or being confused when someone's actions don't align with their words.

I'm determined to live a life with more integrity and that means speaking my truth at all times no matter how uncomfortable it may feel.  I encourage you to do the same.

I apologize in advance if offend you - don't take it personally ;)

XO

Adrienne