Should

I think this word should be vanished from our vocabulary.  It’s my opinion that this word causes us more harm and suffering than any other word.  

I looked up the definition and found it interesting:  used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions.

To me, this means every time we use the word should, we are criticizing ourselves.  And every time we criticize ourselves, our self-esteem takes a hit.

The way we talk to ourselves is of utmost importance.  I believe, it's one of the most important indicators on the kind of life you will live.

If you are in a constant battle with yourself in your mind, you won’t find peace anywhere in your external world.  

Cultivating a peaceful mind starts with dropping all criticism of yourself, which includes use of the word should.

Replace it with a more empowering word instead - could.  “I could if I wanted to...”  This reclaims your power back.  It gives you choice.  And you realize there really are no should’s, it’s just a choice of whether we want to do something or not.

Be mindful of your words and try making this one small change for a big impact.

XO

Adrienne